Dr. Rachel is passionate about making marriages work and has dedicated her personal and professional life to studying love and relationships. She spent seven years in the field studying NFL relationships while her husband, Craig Terrill, played for the Seattle Seahawks from 2004-2011. She obtained her Ph.D. from The University of South Florida and is currently an Assistant Professor in the Department of Communication at Northwest University in Kirkland, WA . Her work has been featured in radio, television, online, and print publications such as The Seattle Times and is regularly featured on NFL Player Engagement and on spousesinsports.com. She is also working on a book about love in the NFL.
Do you know someone who is perpetually single despite being a great catch? How about someone who perpetually picks men or women who are completely wrong for them? Or maybe someone who is in a relationship right now that is going no where?
Why is it so difficult to find someone with whom we are compatible?
When people, especially women, find out that I study love, they inevitably tell me a story about someone in their lives who is either single or in a bad relationship. They want to know what they can tell them to help them along their path to love. The truth is, love is not a science. I don’t have a special equation to give them that will guarantee that they find a true love that will last forever. I wish I did. Can you imagine all of the heartache that might be avoided if we were taught a clear and concise path to and through love?
Funny thing is, the media tells us that it’s simple. We’re taught that love can happen in a moment and that if it is really true love, then we will live happily ever after. Media has taught us that there are a few tricks to finding our true love: We can either look into the eyes of our soulmate and we will know; we can act helpless and wait to be rescued; or we can kiss enough frogs until one of them turns into a prince (this one is particularly dangerous because when you kiss frogs you date frogs...and when you date frogs, you ultimately marry a frog. Then you have to divorce a frog or live with his ugly warts forever and divorces are uglier than the frog you kissed in the first place).