Love Matters
Welcome! I'm Rachel Terrill. I believe in love. From as early as I can remember, I wanted to know what brought couples together and what kept them together. I wanted to know what it meant to fall in love. In 2004, I fell in love with Craig Terrill. When he was drafted to play for the Seattle Seahawks, I focused my studies on how to make love last in the NFL. A few years later, I wrote my dissertation about Love in the NFL. I subsequently earned a PhD in Communication. I once overheard my seven-year-old daughter tell a friend, "My mommy is a doctor, but not a real doctor. She is a 'Love Doctor' because she helps people learn about love." For the last 13 years, I've continued my quest as a Love Doctor -- studying, writing, and teaching others about how to find love and how to keep the flame burning. Here's a link to my more official bio. |
Read Rachel's articles in Sports IllustratedWatch Rachel's TEDx: Kirkland talk about Love and Stories |
How to Find Your Soulmate in 5 Easy StepsDo you know someone who is perpetually single despite being a great catch? How about someone who perpetually picks men or women who are completely wrong for them? Or maybe someone who is in a relationship right now that is going no where?
Why is it so difficult to find someone with whom we are compatible? When people, especially women, find out that I study love, they inevitably tell me a story about someone in their lives who is either single or in a bad relationship. They want to know what they can tell them to help them along their path to love. The truth is, love is not a science. I don’t have a special equation to give them that will guarantee that they find a true love that will last forever. I wish I did. Can you imagine all of the heartache that might be avoided if we were taught a clear and concise path to and through love? The media tells us that it’s that simple. We’re taught that love can happen in a moment and that if it is really true love, then we will live happily ever after. Media has taught us that there are a few tricks to finding our true love: We can either look into the eyes of our soulmate and we will know; we can act helpless and wait to be rescued; or we can kiss enough frogs until one of them turns into a prince (this one is particularly dangerous because when you kiss frogs you date frogs...and when you date frogs, you ultimately marry a frog. Then you have to divorce a frog or live with his ugly warts forever and divorces are uglier than the frog you kissed in the first place). The truth is, the media lies. Most of us are sent out into the world with hearts full of dreams but no helpful tools to help us make that love happen.
So, I don’t have the magical equation, but I definitely have some helpful tools that might help you find someone with whom you really can spend the rest of your life loving. Follow this link for the rest of my blog about how to find your soulmate in 5 easy steps. |
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